In your love journey, you're going to meet many prospects. Some of whom you may have non-committal, fleeting encounters with. Some may be unrequited loves. Some may be cheats. Some may be toxic and abusive partners. On the other hand, some may be solid individuals with great personalities, great minds, and a genuine interest in you. But even when the love, passion, and commitment are there, it can be hard to tell whether or not this is it. My advice? Look out for these five signs that you're with someone who is marriage material:
1. He shares the same values as you
You know you both want kids and expect to split the child care equally. Or maybe you know you both want kids and he wants to take extended paternity leave. You know that nightly family dinners are a must. You both agree that holidays are meant to be shared with extended family. Whatever it is that's important to you, they align with your partner's view on how life will be shared. And this alignment exists because you've talked about it and made sure you can get on the same page.
2. He's patient with you
We've all got our own brand of crazy. We can be irrational, moody, and sometimes downright bitchy. But he's there for you. He's patient enough to help you work through these idiosyncrasies. Don't get me wrong, patient doesn't mean he's going to let you get away with snappy comments, or act as your personal doormat. Patient means he's communicative and wants to help you work through it when you're not at your best (and you're doing the same for him at his lower moments).
3. He talks through conflict
A guy who's husband material is able to take a step back and employ reason in the midst of your most volatile arguments. You want to spend forever with someone who's not afraid to have the hard conversations. It’s not that you don’t have conflict, it’s that he doesn’t run away when you do. It shows he’s invested in you and in the relationship. It shows commitment and that he has a level of maturity that is important in a long-term relationship.
4. He makes you laugh
There's going to be peaks and valleys in life, and some really tough times. You want your partner to be able to make you laugh throughout it all. Maybe it's that go-to dance move he does at weddings to ham it up, or his uncanny ability to cut the tension in a room with a witty joke, or maybe it's the well timed (gentle) joke to keep your tears from falling in the sadder moments. Whatever it is, you want to make sure laughter - and the medicine it provides - is present.
5. He encourages your individuality
You don't feel guilty taking a night (or a week-long beach vacation) away from your partner to focus on friends. And more importantly, he's supportive of this. In fact, taking a little break from your other half every now and then is totally healthy. He wants you to have your independence. He realizes that in order to feel fulfilled you need an identity outside of him. The healthiest couples live their own lives, having experiences they can then share with each other the next time they're together. And when you do decide he is The One, you can find some tips to select the (arguably most special) time together on your dream honeymoon here.